You set your own goal posts in life.
You are also the one who decides if you won or lost.
In life, most of the games we play don't necessarily have only one winner. A lot of the situations are win-win in nature.
We just have to define what a win means to us.
For some, standing upright and walking a few steps on their own feet might be a win, whereas for someone else coming second in a triathlon might be a loss.
You control if you celebrate a loss or you mourn a victory. You decide if the glass is half empty or half full. Why not be happy that you have a glass?
Just try to be better than what you were yesterday, and you'll realise that you'll be happier.
You are your only competition.
Now, fight!